What? From about the time my wife and I, reached our twenty fifth anniversary. People have asked me this question; what is “The Secret,” to a lasting marriage? Even this week, I was asked this question. A few years ago, I decided to write; what I believe to be a simplistic thought. Whenever I get asked the question, my answer is always the same; “LOVE THE ONE YOU’RE WITH!” That’s my take, love will never be perfect; there’s no right method, no secrets. To me, it’s not about finding the right person; “but you become the right Love, for them.” There’s no secret love, just simply love the one you’re with. Too many people, rely on their feelings to guide them; when it’s the heart, that truly knows best!
You can never make someone love you, but you can make yourself truly love them; for better or worse. I also look at it like this; “even if you don’t always Feel the Love, still continue to Give Love!” You can help change a heart, when you truly know how to first change a mind; Yours! That’s probably, “the secret;” that seems to elude so many hearts. One important key for me, a love bound within a three strand cord; not easily broken, the spiritual element. You need to make up within your own heart, that you will love them forever. Never to question, if they in turn; will also love you the same? Sometimes, it can seem like the relationship is oil and water. But even water can turn into wine, and the oil can anoint. Give the union time, to turn into a true blessing!
For me, the question was never about her heart; but mine. The only heart, I have true influence over; change starts within. So, the question you need to ask yourself is this; are you truly willing to love them; until death… do you part? Search within, truthfully ask yourself a simple question. Is Valentines Day, the only day you remember; to celebrate the one you love? Or do you love that 365 days, you get the opportunity to appreciate; the one you get to celebrate? When you have truly discovered how to love completely. You might just find, that love is not really a secret; but a choice, a matter of the heart. So come closer, let me whisper into your heart. If you truly need to know “The Secret”… to a long lasting love; the What, is you!
Hope everyone had a fantastic May, hope this was a blessing? You may have noticed a slight shift, in the tone of this months post? May is my love month. Seems like just yesterday, 31 years; when the three strands were tethered. God, Husband, Wife!
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It doesn’t take bravery to love, true courage is choosing to stay; in love, come what may. Boldness will move a heart forward, but faithfulness is what makes the love forever. Stand up against fear… of commitment, it’s not about resistance. Sometimes the line gets blurred, and we lose sight of what we’re truly resisting; sometimes love is what gets caught in the middle. When sorrow tries to steal the joy, when division comes creeping; make sure the love is never shaken. Don’t let fear get a hold, let forever be the bond; never broken!
Strength of character, takes bravery. Fear will never stand a chance, when the fight to resist; is not within your heart. Choosing to love forever, is not an act of valor. So many say their love is fearless, but when the struggle gets too real. Strength to stand on your commitment, becomes the first characteristic; a yielding heart abandons. True Love doesn’t yield to fear, but stands its ground; fortified by the bond. Fortitude, determination; the boldness to take a stand. It takes faith to steady the heart, but boldly stand; upon the love!
Someone asked me the question; “what’s my secret to a long lasting marriage?” Without hesitating, I said; “there’s no real secret!” Then I followed it up by saying; “JUST LOVE THE ONE YOU’RE WITH!” Love will never be perfect, for it’s not about finding the right person; “but you becoming the right person… for them!” There is no secrets to real love, just love the one you’re with!
Too many people rely on their feelings to guide them; when it’s the heart that truly knows best! You can never make someone love you, but you can make yourself completely love them; for better or for worse! I also look at it like this; “even if you don’t always feel the love, still continue to give the love!” You can help change a heart, when you truly know how to change a mind; Yours! That’s probably the, “secret;” that seems to elude so many hearts!
You just need to make up within your heart that you will love them forever, and never question; if they will also love you forever? For me the question was never about her heart, but mine; “change first starts within!” So the question you need to ask yourself is this; “are you willing to love them, until death do you part?” So search within your heart and truthfully ask yourself the question; is valentines a day you remember to celebrate the one you love, or do you love that every day you get the opportunity to appreciate; the one you get to celebrate?
So go ahead and honor them on that very special day, but also celebrate them; on the other 364 days of the year. For when you have discovered how to love completely. You would have finally found that love has never been a secret; “but a matter of the heart!” So come closer, let me whisper into your heart; “the secret to love has always been… within you!”