What? From about the time my wife and I, reached our twenty fifth anniversary. People have asked me this question; what is “The Secret,” to a lasting marriage? Even this week, I was asked this question. A few years ago, I decided to write; what I believe to be a simplistic thought. Whenever I get asked the question, my answer is always the same; “LOVE THE ONE YOU’RE WITH!” That’s my take, love will never be perfect; there’s no right method, no secrets. To me, it’s not about finding the right person; “but you become the right Love, for them.” There’s no secret love, just simply love the one you’re with. Too many people, rely on their feelings to guide them; when it’s the heart, that truly knows best!
You can never make someone love you, but you can make yourself truly love them; for better or worse. I also look at it like this; “even if you don’t always Feel the Love, still continue to Give Love!” You can help change a heart, when you truly know how to first change a mind; Yours! That’s probably, “the secret;” that seems to elude so many hearts. One important key for me, a love bound within a three strand cord; not easily broken, the spiritual element. You need to make up within your own heart, that you will love them forever. Never to question, if they in turn; will also love you the same? Sometimes, it can seem like the relationship is oil and water. But even water can turn into wine, and the oil can anoint. Give the union time, to turn into a true blessing!
For me, the question was never about her heart; but mine. The only heart, I have true influence over; change starts within. So, the question you need to ask yourself is this; are you truly willing to love them; until death… do you part? Search within, truthfully ask yourself a simple question. Is Valentines Day, the only day you remember; to celebrate the one you love? Or do you love that 365 days, you get the opportunity to appreciate; the one you get to celebrate? When you have truly discovered how to love completely. You might just find, that love is not really a secret; but a choice, a matter of the heart. So come closer, let me whisper into your heart. If you truly need to know “The Secret”… to a long lasting love; the What, is you!
Hope everyone had a fantastic May, hope this was a blessing? You may have noticed a slight shift, in the tone of this months post? May is my love month. Seems like just yesterday, 31 years; when the three strands were tethered. God, Husband, Wife!
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Standing at the edge of the sunset, a heart locked within a gaze. Captivated by a light, that shimmers. The stars you hoped to see, hidden; a darkness overwhelms. All that can be seen, shadows; of what was. You look for a glimmer of hope, a search for; but the hope you seek, not in the stars. So now it’s lost, in a gaze. Lost within the moment, a heart captured; by reflections. A mood starts to hover, the moonlight very revealing. A heart eclipses by a love, a light that out shines the dark. Love revealed, a beauty that takes your every breath. A breathtaking moment, for a heart in need; a silent prayer. Hope, within the darkness; peace, within the stillness of your soul. A heart overwhelmed by feelings, embraced by the emotions. A soul eclipsed, having an emotional moment; it’s Love, the reveal!
But then the dam, the burst; a heart completely overwhelmed. A heart unrestrained, a soul trying not to get swept away. The desperation, trying to hold back; trying to contain. But strong are the feeling, a soul getting drenched; the rain, is falling. A tethered hope, means faith in; a silent prayer raised. Sleeping, doesn’t always mean resting; when a restless soul comes between. Even in the darkness, the silence still reveals; the rhythm of every heartbeat. As the darkness is rolled back, as a new day cast away the darkness; revealing, the sun does rise. Love is a light, it brings true witness. A heart gets strengthened, within the resolve, within the know. A restless soul, is still a heart dreaming; for a new dawn. To show forth the light, the warmth, the closeness. Love; the Reveal, to a soul in need!
The walk, a walk; call it what you may, but it’s never alone. It’s a road, a path, the highway; going up yonder. Sometimes the street is unpaved, the path a bit crooked; but it’s about the destination. It’s not a sprint, it’s not even a marathon; it’s a journey, a walk. I can take a thousand steps, but one thing I’m still trying to do; walk a mile. No matter how hard the road we walk, it’s always one foot in front of the other. One step at a time, gets you to the streets of gold. If it feels like you carry the world, if your soul is getting weary; find rest; under the tree of life. Mercy, what goes before you; Grace, what keeps you!
Left, right, left, right; it’s not about being militant. It’s not about counting steps, count your blessings. Don’t fall into a legalism pothole. Let your heart be at peace with the journey, let your soul be unashamed with the walk. Be unapologetic, about the choice; to be faithful. Whenever I get weary, I retreat to my hiding place. I run under the canopy, a love that covers; a shelter, within the storm. Every day is a test, along the journey there are lots of trials. The key, be forever steadfast; know how to truly get through, it’s not on your own!
When my love starts to stray, a change of heart; means a change of direction. Whenever I lose hope, I stop to listen; faith comes by hearing, but in the stillness. So therefore, guard your heart; don’t let it be led astray. Run the race, pressing toward the prize; just remember, to walk by faith. Don’t let the journey get your heart into a tailspin, over all the long winding roads. Be not troubled, by all the unpaved streets. Don’t just rely on sight, it only gets in the way. You don’t always have to see the how… you get there. You just need to know Who, makes crooked paths straight; in The Walk!
SweeTie, can I trouble you for just a second? Now when I say a second, I truly mean; forever. I want to trouble your heart, stir up your soul. Can I do it… everyday, how about for a thousand years? Okay, okay; that’s pretty presumptuous of me, lets just make it forever? Now I must warn you, I AM… a handful; Two… to be exact. My heart is complicated. It requires a true understanding; Upper case, lower case? Now, I’m not asking you to figure out my heart? Many have tried, but they just ended up getting frustrated; they just didn’t get me. You know the positioning of my heart, it’s a heart forever shifted. Others thought they could just put my heart into a box, and just write me off… as done. Square peg, round hole; doesn’t even apply. To know my heart, you have to think outside the box!
Now girl, I must confess; I’ve been called Trouble, Capital. Maybe once or twice, okay; maybe a couple of hundred times. Woman, please don’t ever let that trouble you. If that kind of talking, totally shifts the narrative; “you can’t take a funny man seriously.” That’s a case of another T, Talking points. Control, ALT, Del; whatever others say about me. Girl, I just want to see you smile; with my humorous expressions. It’s never just tongue and cheek, whenever I say; I Will Love You Forever. I know that my kind of love, is rubbing off on you. Your love has become Big Trouble, for my heart. Your love is TOUCHING, SHIFTING; MOVING. The LOVE felt, yeah; ALL CAPS. If a sticky key seems a bit dirty? Let the compressed air… exhale. Let every breath of your love, blow my mind!
Wait, hold up, backspace. This part needs to be Underscored, This_Love_Is_Forever! Girl, please don’t worry; about how much trouble you’ve gotten yourself into? You had your chance to Escape, but it seems the Control… button; didn’t work. Case closed, this love; has a hold on your heart. Fill my heart with your charm, it’s sure to be a case of love itiss; and I would never try to fight it. I know I can be a jokester, a prankster; a funny man. But at the end of the day, my heart will surely be no trouble. Your love has helped, to turn a once troubled heart; into a lower case t (thankful_from the bottom of my heart). This is not a mistake… n identity, I know who I am. When we met, I was young, maybe a bit naive; and you were, My Sweet Sixteen!
Woman, when you agreed to marry, you surely must have known; I was going to be a handful, “a.k.e Trouble?” Baby love, you must have known, my kind of love; was spelt with an Upper case T? No need to call me a fool, I’m not that mister T. But you can surely pity this fool, who’s still in love with you. The smartest thing I ever did, was marrying you; and promise you forever. You were never a fool, to ever say yes. Don’t ever let this love, be about the case of the T. Whether lower case, or if sometimes stuck too long; in the Upper case. My only intention, to be the endless trouble for your heart; how about forever? If my words, ever cut deep. Big Trouble, for my heart; knowing that I forgot, to remove the Cap Lock. Why I forever choose, to think before my heart speaks. I don’t want a lowercase word, to become a case of concern; for your heart. Go ahead, call me TROUBLE; all caps, full stop. I may tend to put tongue in cheek, but all joking aside. May, the Case of the T; truly mean TOGETHER, Forever!
Life; the journey. To some it’s all about moving on up, to the east side. Some like to call their life, a west side story; but still a journey, every heart needs to take. Every One wants to get to the top of the mountain, but along the way; there are valleys. Where the heart of a warrior needs to come alive, to slay a Goliath. Life is taken One day at a time, One step at a time. A press through, a push pass; the shadows. Pressing on… the upward way, should forever be One direction; vertical. The journey can never be taken lying down, you have to take a stand; every day. You may only get, that One moment… in time. Yes, some days it’s One step forward, only to do the two step; trying to avoid the past. Some days the walk is a long winding road, some days the path is paved; but every day, choose to still enjoy the journey!
We only get One life, we live, we breathe; as we try to enjoy every moment. So, live it; One heartbeat at a time. One heart, One mind, One soul; it’s One place, within. Life is short, and we only get One story to tell; live it well. Let your heart dream, as far as the east is from the west. Everyday count your blessings, don’t just stop on the Number One. We all get more than just One day, every single day we get; is a true blessing. So therefore, let’s live as One; let’s truly be as One. Let the passion be for One another. Let it be unbridled… compassion; not just uncontrolled ambitions… for self. This I write, not just to encourage; but to inspire… all to truly represent, The One, who holds our tomorrow!
Stronger and Stronger, Your love is Growing, Growing; Bigger and Bigger, Better and Better. It’s absolutely Glowing, Glowing, getting even Brighter and Brighter; within my soul. Won’t You serve it to my heart, Greater and Greater. Until my heart unequivocally knows; Your love will forever be more than my, equal Portion Portion. Your love is a true Blessing, Blessing. That’s absolutely Working, Working; in my Favor, Favor. My heart now has so much Meaning, Meaning. I absolutely Mean It, Mean It. This love is absolutely Worth It, Worth It; this life is now truly worth Living, Living. Your love makes my heart, Better, Better; iRepeat, Stronger Stronger!
Maybe, Maybe, I’m just not Seeing Seeing; just can’t see it any other way. So how can I help but to be so very Grateful Grateful? So Therefore Therefore, I’m going to let Your love Echo Echo. Absolutely echo Stronger and Stronger, throughout my heart and Soul, Soul. It might seem to others, that I’m absolutely Crazy Crazy; just because iRepeat myself? But the truth is, there is No Me, No Me; no meaning without You. It’s about to start Again, Again, even just the Thinking Thinking; starts the tears Flowing Flowing. So let me stop Right There, Right There. Even though I can keep Going, Going, with this for Ever, and Ever. The passion that I have, the passion within all that I need. Abba, there is no Passion Passion; without You. I want the love to get Stronger and Stronger; yes this, iRepeat!
Forever, what it seems like. Your love, my heart; this dance. As a child, I couldn’t yet recognize; it was an unfamiliar lyric. But even though my heart wasn’t familiar with the rhythm; Your love, was the song. The Lover of my soul, what You are. My first love, the ever last; the best love my heart has ever known. The love that stills, is the love that moves; soulfully. A slow waltz, a sweet lullaby; how Your love, won the heart of a babe. A heart trying to know love, a heart needing to understand true love. It was in the quietness, alone within the stillness of my soul; where my heart was held close!
But then, there was the coming of age; a boy to a teen. A heart held within an embrace, the slow waltz; turned into a slow dance. A heart beginning to know love, a love slowly breaking down the walls. There came a day, the day I invited You in; to dance forever. Young love, a teenage heart; but it was total surrender. Oh, Lord; You, me. A heart wide open, forever exposed. It seems like just yesterday, the summer of 2019; marks thirty four years. Your love, my heart; embraced in a forever dance. A heart learning how to trust, a soul now knowing what it truly is to be loved. Unconditionally, within a forever embrace. A heart forever moved, by the rhythm of Your love; dance with me!
But then, the lover of my soul; introduced my heart to another. A love so real, a dance partner to share the dance. How unselfish, how utterly thoughtful; to let my heart dance with another. It wasn’t a tap out, but a tap in… to a master plan. How two hearts become whole, through a slow dance; through a lifetime commitment. Oh turn the music up, this is my jam; You Are My Lady, dance with me. Oh girl, I see it in your eyes; your love dances, forever with my heart. Sweet lady, the lover of my soul; wants our love to dance, into forevermore. That love will always be first, the one true love; my heart has ever known. So Milady, are you truly willing; to be a part of this dance, share this heart of mine?
Lady, put your heart forever into my hands; and dance with me. I promise, this love will never be; just a song and dance, this love is forever. Let my love, play throughout your hearts and soul; ALWAYS, our forever song. God’s love is the candlelight, our hearts forever the flame. If we fan the flame, His love will light up our heart; to forever bask in the Afterglow. Lord, whenever I get lost for words, Your love doesn’t even have to say a word. Take me by the heart, dance with me forever. Let the world disappear, all I need to see; just Your heart. Words can’t even begin to express the feelings, this slow dance; this forever embrace!
Real Love, falling in love every time our hearts meet; the hold, that just won’t let go. A presence that leaves a heart breathless, forever swept away. Lord, lady; what we have here, it’s all I truly need, to know I’m loved. Small still whispers, how this love began. I will forever hold tight, Your love; I keep it close to my heart. During the business of my mind, my heart will always take moments to reflect. Lord, a quiet stroll through Your heart; how I get to in Your love. Every day, the dawn of every morning; it’s another embrace. A kiss upon my heart, then out into our Forever; The Dance, within my heart!