What? From about the time my wife and I, reached our twenty fifth anniversary. People have asked me this question; what is “The Secret,” to a lasting marriage? Even this week, I was asked this question. A few years ago, I decided to write; what I believe to be a simplistic thought. Whenever I get asked the question, my answer is always the same; “LOVE THE ONE YOU’RE WITH!” That’s my take, love will never be perfect; there’s no right method, no secrets. To me, it’s not about finding the right person; “but you become the right Love, for them.” There’s no secret love, just simply love the one you’re with. Too many people, rely on their feelings to guide them; when it’s the heart, that truly knows best!
You can never make someone love you, but you can make yourself truly love them; for better or worse. I also look at it like this; “even if you don’t always Feel the Love, still continue to Give Love!” You can help change a heart, when you truly know how to first change a mind; Yours! That’s probably, “the secret;” that seems to elude so many hearts. One important key for me, a love bound within a three strand cord; not easily broken, the spiritual element. You need to make up within your own heart, that you will love them forever. Never to question, if they in turn; will also love you the same? Sometimes, it can seem like the relationship is oil and water. But even water can turn into wine, and the oil can anoint. Give the union time, to turn into a true blessing!
For me, the question was never about her heart; but mine. The only heart, I have true influence over; change starts within. So, the question you need to ask yourself is this; are you truly willing to love them; until death… do you part? Search within, truthfully ask yourself a simple question. Is Valentines Day, the only day you remember; to celebrate the one you love? Or do you love that 365 days, you get the opportunity to appreciate; the one you get to celebrate? When you have truly discovered how to love completely. You might just find, that love is not really a secret; but a choice, a matter of the heart. So come closer, let me whisper into your heart. If you truly need to know “The Secret”… to a long lasting love; the What, is you!
Hope everyone had a fantastic May, hope this was a blessing? You may have noticed a slight shift, in the tone of this months post? May is my love month. Seems like just yesterday, 31 years; when the three strands were tethered. God, Husband, Wife!
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SweeTie, can I trouble you for just a second? Now when I say a second, I truly mean; forever. I want to trouble your heart, stir up your soul. Can I do it… everyday, how about for a thousand years? Okay, okay; that’s pretty presumptuous of me, lets just make it forever? Now I must warn you, I AM… a handful; Two… to be exact. My heart is complicated. It requires a true understanding; Upper case, lower case? Now, I’m not asking you to figure out my heart? Many have tried, but they just ended up getting frustrated; they just didn’t get me. You know the positioning of my heart, it’s a heart forever shifted. Others thought they could just put my heart into a box, and just write me off… as done. Square peg, round hole; doesn’t even apply. To know my heart, you have to think outside the box!
Now girl, I must confess; I’ve been called Trouble, Capital. Maybe once or twice, okay; maybe a couple of hundred times. Woman, please don’t ever let that trouble you. If that kind of talking, totally shifts the narrative; “you can’t take a funny man seriously.” That’s a case of another T, Talking points. Control, ALT, Del; whatever others say about me. Girl, I just want to see you smile; with my humorous expressions. It’s never just tongue and cheek, whenever I say; I Will Love You Forever. I know that my kind of love, is rubbing off on you. Your love has become Big Trouble, for my heart. Your love is TOUCHING, SHIFTING; MOVING. The LOVE felt, yeah; ALL CAPS. If a sticky key seems a bit dirty? Let the compressed air… exhale. Let every breath of your love, blow my mind!
Wait, hold up, backspace. This part needs to be Underscored, This_Love_Is_Forever! Girl, please don’t worry; about how much trouble you’ve gotten yourself into? You had your chance to Escape, but it seems the Control… button; didn’t work. Case closed, this love; has a hold on your heart. Fill my heart with your charm, it’s sure to be a case of love itiss; and I would never try to fight it. I know I can be a jokester, a prankster; a funny man. But at the end of the day, my heart will surely be no trouble. Your love has helped, to turn a once troubled heart; into a lower case t (thankful_from the bottom of my heart). This is not a mistake… n identity, I know who I am. When we met, I was young, maybe a bit naive; and you were, My Sweet Sixteen!
Woman, when you agreed to marry, you surely must have known; I was going to be a handful, “a.k.e Trouble?” Baby love, you must have known, my kind of love; was spelt with an Upper case T? No need to call me a fool, I’m not that mister T. But you can surely pity this fool, who’s still in love with you. The smartest thing I ever did, was marrying you; and promise you forever. You were never a fool, to ever say yes. Don’t ever let this love, be about the case of the T. Whether lower case, or if sometimes stuck too long; in the Upper case. My only intention, to be the endless trouble for your heart; how about forever? If my words, ever cut deep. Big Trouble, for my heart; knowing that I forgot, to remove the Cap Lock. Why I forever choose, to think before my heart speaks. I don’t want a lowercase word, to become a case of concern; for your heart. Go ahead, call me TROUBLE; all caps, full stop. I may tend to put tongue in cheek, but all joking aside. May, the Case of the T; truly mean TOGETHER, Forever!
Forever, what it seems like. Your love, my heart; this dance. As a child, I couldn’t yet recognize; it was an unfamiliar lyric. But even though my heart wasn’t familiar with the rhythm; Your love, was the song. The Lover of my soul, what You are. My first love, the ever last; the best love my heart has ever known. The love that stills, is the love that moves; soulfully. A slow waltz, a sweet lullaby; how Your love, won the heart of a babe. A heart trying to know love, a heart needing to understand true love. It was in the quietness, alone within the stillness of my soul; where my heart was held close!
But then, there was the coming of age; a boy to a teen. A heart held within an embrace, the slow waltz; turned into a slow dance. A heart beginning to know love, a love slowly breaking down the walls. There came a day, the day I invited You in; to dance forever. Young love, a teenage heart; but it was total surrender. Oh, Lord; You, me. A heart wide open, forever exposed. It seems like just yesterday, the summer of 2019; marks thirty four years. Your love, my heart; embraced in a forever dance. A heart learning how to trust, a soul now knowing what it truly is to be loved. Unconditionally, within a forever embrace. A heart forever moved, by the rhythm of Your love; dance with me!
But then, the lover of my soul; introduced my heart to another. A love so real, a dance partner to share the dance. How unselfish, how utterly thoughtful; to let my heart dance with another. It wasn’t a tap out, but a tap in… to a master plan. How two hearts become whole, through a slow dance; through a lifetime commitment. Oh turn the music up, this is my jam; You Are My Lady, dance with me. Oh girl, I see it in your eyes; your love dances, forever with my heart. Sweet lady, the lover of my soul; wants our love to dance, into forevermore. That love will always be first, the one true love; my heart has ever known. So Milady, are you truly willing; to be a part of this dance, share this heart of mine?
Lady, put your heart forever into my hands; and dance with me. I promise, this love will never be; just a song and dance, this love is forever. Let my love, play throughout your hearts and soul; ALWAYS, our forever song. God’s love is the candlelight, our hearts forever the flame. If we fan the flame, His love will light up our heart; to forever bask in the Afterglow. Lord, whenever I get lost for words, Your love doesn’t even have to say a word. Take me by the heart, dance with me forever. Let the world disappear, all I need to see; just Your heart. Words can’t even begin to express the feelings, this slow dance; this forever embrace!
Real Love, falling in love every time our hearts meet; the hold, that just won’t let go. A presence that leaves a heart breathless, forever swept away. Lord, lady; what we have here, it’s all I truly need, to know I’m loved. Small still whispers, how this love began. I will forever hold tight, Your love; I keep it close to my heart. During the business of my mind, my heart will always take moments to reflect. Lord, a quiet stroll through Your heart; how I get to in Your love. Every day, the dawn of every morning; it’s another embrace. A kiss upon my heart, then out into our Forever; The Dance, within my heart!
Lady, I remember the day; the day I laid my heart, in the palm of your hands. A special day, with the fondest of memories; the day I promised you, Forever. From the moment we met, I felt the rhythm; your love, moved my heart. It took years, to get into the groove. Learning to love somebody right, isn’t easy; you have taught me a few moves. This love is still groovy, groove is in the heart. It’s been years, but my heart still hasn’t stopped; slow dancing with your love. The song that plays endlessly within my soul; Always. Your love, my heart; embraced in a forever dance!
The love, I see it in your eyes; it’s felt within my heart. I’ve always known, it was never just trust and believe. Right from the start my heart knew, your heart would get my forever. There’s a light, a certain kind of light; the love that shines from within your soul. It was never a question, if I could live with? The question I posed to my heart, could I truly live without… my special lady. Your love has helped to shape, God’s love; what has molded my heart, to be part of another. Together we’re both better versions, of what I absolutely know; to be a predestined union. When nights are cold, when my love seemed a little too cold. Your love, what warms my heart!
To show the love inside, I have failed many times; my heart had to learn the deeper meaning. Love, to know the depth, is to truly know; to love somebody. I have experienced much, also learned a lot. How to love, how to be loved. I’ve never been much of a romantic, romance; was a foreign concept. You can know an ocean of love, but it’s when a heart drowns there in; when a soul truly becomes free. Romance is a pretty word, but it’s the substance within; that gives it true meaning. With so many, feelings come, feelings go. In love one moment, not liking very much the next; not my heart. Forever in love, was never ever a question. The forever part was settled, my heart just had to learn how to share!
There has never been, nor will there ever be conditions; to have my love. My heart will never contemplate when to love; it’s always, and forever. What I’ve always strived to be, and will be to the very end; faithful, with this heart of mine. In love, many are blind to the truth. A knock down, dragged out… conflict, by two hearts at odds. It doesn’t have to be, no longer in love. One heart, means a coming back together; to be whole. I am a man, a man of faith; a complex man for sure. A man blessed, to live and breathe; through a special kind of love. For me to believe in true love, I didn’t have to wait years; to see if I should give my all. I am not blinded by faith, and it’s not blind faith; choosing to love forever. I first had to believe the heart of The One, I chose to put all my trust. Sweet lady, I trust your love; it only took me days, to know your heart. If love is not forever, then how else does a heart truly learn; To Love Somebody?
Songwriters: Barry Gibb / Robin Hugh Gibb / Maurice Gibb; The Bee Gees.
To Love Somebody, was first released in 1967; by the Bee Gees. In 1969, Janis Joplin released a version. Then in 1992, Michael Bolton released his rendition; which is part of my music collection.
Later this month, my bride and I will be celebrating our 31st anniversary; this song Inspired speaks to all the years. I hope you enjoyed it. Happy upcoming Mother’s Day; to all the wonderful mothers. Have a wonderful weekend!
I woke up, it was next to you. Watched you sleep for a moment, kissed you gently, tenderly; I didn’t want to wake, a sleeping angel. So, I rolled out of bed; I had a role to play. Man, what a pleasure; to provide love for your heart. Said a prayer, got dressed; brushed my teeth second. I wanted the kiss upon my lips, to stay with me; forever and a day. Still thinking about the kiss, I slowly headed to the kitchen. With every step there was a resounding echo within my soul; love was the song upon my lips. My heart just kept humming the favorite part; I have nuff love for you!
When I got to the kitchen I had a wonderful breakfast, it was the kiss that made it much sweeter; the sugar I got from my sweet… tea. It took me a while to focus my gaze; off the kiss, and onto the newspaper. As I was checking the lottery section; I realized that we won ten million dollars. So I left the house, and went to go pick up our winnings. On the way I stopped, I had to rescue a cat stuck in a tree. Then a few more minutes down the road, there was a house on fire; with a woman screaming, please save my baby. Without giving it a second thought, I ran straight into the house; rescued the baby. I gently placed the baby into mother’s arms, she thanked me. Then lovingly hugged and kissed the baby, it was such a loving embrace. Tears, and awe; what a sight to behold, we were surrounded by guardian angels!
I finally reached the lottery office, picked up the winnings. It was more money than we would ever need, so I decided to use half of it; to help eradicate world hunger. Some were donated to charity, some used to help discover a cure for Cancer. What was left, just enough to pay the bills; what more do I truly need? Mohammad Ali heard about what was done, he invited me to his home. Thanked me and said, you’re The Greatest. I quickly stopped him, deflected; told him that I don’t hold such a title. There’s nothing great, or impressive about my heart. I looked to the heavens, pointed; to Him who is truly The Greatest. The Amazing Love, that has no contender; a heart, Undisputed!
When I got back home later that day, I kissed my wife; told her all about my day. I said, Wow; what a truly Amazing Day! All because; I WOKE UP, AND IT WAS NEXT TO YOU!!
The first paragraph is part of my day, the stories in the following; are things that if the opportunity presented itself, exactly how I would approach them! Life is short, it’s not what you do each day that’s makes a person; but who makes your heart, thrive!